Frequently Asked Questions
For something that holds language as a key principle, the name is quite convoluted! NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. Broken down this means:
Neuro – How the mind and body interact
Linguistic – Our use of language to think and communicate with others
Programming – Patterns and habits we create, learn and follow in our daily lives
In short it is a method of how we manage our thoughts, emotions and behaviour. It’s a bit like an ‘owners manual’ for your brain giving you insights into how you think and behave and the reasons you think and behave differently to others. At school we are taught all about history, geography and maths but we are not taught how to manage our thoughts and feelings to get positive results in our work, hobbies and relationships – this is what NLP does.
How does NLP differ from other therapies?
There are a number of differences between NLP and traditional therapies, the 2 most significant are:
Traditional therapies may categorise a person based on their behaviour through diagnosis, e.g. they may get told ‘You have anxiety’. Being given this label often means the focus is placed on anxiety in all aspects of their life and they may get stuck in this belief. NLP prefers to look at patterns and specific instances of unhelpful behaviour. If someone came to us with ‘anxiety’ we would work with them to pinpoint the reasons why they felt anxious at specific points in time and eliminate the root cause of that behaviour.
More traditional therapies such as psychoanalysis don’t have a defined structure; they encourage clients to talk about what is on their mind without a resolution in mind, which can take months/years. NLP looks at language and thought patterns to identify where the client may be repeating the same unhelpful processes and change it. This results in a more efficient resolution which can take only a few weeks.
How is NLP tailored to children?
I am a trained NLP4Kids practitioner, this means I have been taught how to modify NLP tools and techniques so they are fun and easier for children to learn. We use games, stories and art to help children identify their specific challenges and learn new ways of developing confidence and implementing positive thoughts and behaviour.
To find out more about NLP4kids visit the website: www.berkshire.nlp4kids.org
Which specific issues can NLP help with?
NLP can help with a variety of issues, I specialise in building confidence as this can then help children deal with many day to day challenges such as exams, school stress, bullying and changes in the family dynamic e.g. separation, divorce or bereavement.
Is it me or my child who comes for the therapy?
This depends on the issue. Most of my clients have a mix of the child coming to one to one therapy with me and then the parent coming along to coaching sessions. This is however something I can advise you on after the initial free consultation session.
How do I know if NLP is right for my child?
I offer a free initial consultation to all potential clients. This gives me the opportunity to find out more about your child and their specific issue. After this consultation I can then advise you on whether NLP is the best course of action for you and your child.
I’d like to know more about how NLP can help my child, what do I do?
If you’d like to learn some specific NLP tools and techniques that can support your child the best thing to do is to add your name and email address in the sign up form on the homepage and you’ll receive lots of tips and support as well as invites to all our seminars and workshops.
I’d like to come to the next “Boost confidence in your child” seminar, what do I do?
You can purchase a ticket for the next seminar from the Workshops page
What’s the process for someone who’s interested in getting help from you?
I encourage all parents who think their child may benefit from my support to give me a call. We have a quick chat to make sure NLP is right for them, if it is; I invite them along to a free consultation. The consultation gives me time to dig deeper into the problem and formulate an effective resolution plan. We would then plan in a number of sessions (typically between 3 – 6) to work together.
Do you work with schools too?
NLP isn’t just used for therapy; the principles can be used in day to day life by teachers to build confidence and positive thinking. I often work with schools to help teachers incorporate the principles of NLP into their lessons. Teachers love how making simple changes to their language and implementing NLP practices can have such a large and sustained impact on the children. We also work on some great techniques to create an extra confidence boost around exam time.
I have some more specific questions, how do I contact you?
You can get in touch with me via email: firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 07747 090871